so it appears that this is my 100th entry to this blog. i wish that i had something more momentous to report for such an occasion. all i've got for today is that i'm "down off the ledge" and for the most part in a stable mental frame of mind. i was commenting to a friend last night that it's been a long time since i've experienced the fits of emotional meltdown that have been coming with seeming regularity in this post-breakup period. it feels like i'm back to my pre-relationship single days of more than a decade ago, when i was constantly (or least it seemed that way) set spinning by some comment or action made by another person. it seems like managing relationships well has never been my forte, particularly when it comes to people that i either take into my confidence or that my heart sets a fancy to (which numbers quite a few since i seem to crush on guys fairly easily).
still, i feel i should share at least a couple of helpful tactics i learned when i was up and peering over the edge of the latest ledge. first, celexa can be your friend. as i commented to the same friend last night, episodes like the latest one would take me out of social engagement commission for at least a week, maybe more. the fact that i can find my way back through the window is definitely in part due to that nice pink little pill. second, it's important to keep telling yourself that while the thoughts and emotions may be real, they don't necessarily reflect a true reality and that you need to hold on until you know more. this leads to the third and final lesson. rather than running away from the situation and burying your head under your covers (my almost always first, instinctual desire), it's important to seek clarity. go back in to the scenario that threw you, acknowledge that you're in a little bit of a crazy place and apologize for any harm it may have caused, and then do your best to learn in as objective a manner as possible what is really going on.
now the truth is you might learn that what you suspected and feared is indeed the case or you might find out that you were completely off base. likely, the discovery will be that some parts were correct and others were not, but invariably, i think you will be better off for the knowledge. i certainly was.
2 comments:
oh my glob, you need a dog. in addition to celexa.
> it's important to keep telling
> yourself that while the thoughts
> and emotions may be real, they
> don't necessarily reflect a true
> reality and that you need to hold
> on until you know more.
But when one isn't depressed one is likely to have a more positive view than situations warrants....
well first thing, i did have a dog. his name was nicholas and he died about a year and a half ago (and at the rate you're reading through this blog, i'm guessing you should be at those entries in about an hour or so). second, i'm not sure there is such a thing as a more positive view than a situation warrants.
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